This posting was a difficult one for me due to the fact that I think birth is a very private and personal experience. So without going beyond my comfort level I will share that my personal birthing experience was in a hospital setting surrounded by my the people most closest to me including my best friend. I have two wonderful daughters who are 4 years apart and I have to say that both births were a blessing. The first one was actually easier than the second one when it comes to the actual delivery. The second birth experience was longer and more painful due to it being natural. Nevertheless I am blessed beyond my measures in being able to carry and bring life into the world. In terms of birth and its impact on child development I recognize the importance of prenatal care as well as having a supportive family/friends to get through the experience. We say that young children need support and that it takes a village to raise a child but it doesn't just start from a certain age it begins prenatally.
I read about birthing traditions and customs in Nigeria. In parts of Nigeria women are expected to give birth alone; completely by themselves. It is not till the delivery is over then a midwife and others come to support the mother.
I could not even imagine going through birth by myself without another sole in the room with me. I think that the support I received from my family gave me the strength to make through the delivery. Also, I think that the mother feeling and knowing that she has support aids in child development because of the importance we must take in addressing the fact that raising a child takes many.
Denise, thank you so much for sharing your private experience with us. Though you shared it as painful, I know you are so thankful to have your daughters in your life. I'm surprised to read that Nigeria women are expected to give birth alone with no support from anyone. I really feel sad for these women because as you said this is a difficult process and is so much better with support from individuals who love you. Thanks again for sharing.
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